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For a very, very, long time my feelings ran the show. If I felt disrespected in any way, I reacted. If I felt lonely, I chased after it. If I felt insecure, I put on a show for everyone. Feelings were immediate and convincing. They felt true, so I treated them like truth.
Well… that cost me!
I remember a good friendship years ago where I kept tolerating shitty behavior that just chipped away at me. I knew it was wrong. But I felt attached to this person. We had a lot of history together. So I stayed in that friendship longer than I should have. My feelings kept negotiating with me, but my self respect stayed quiet as a mouse.
Feelings will beg… self respect will whisper.
Another time, early in recovery, I wanted to prove that I was different. Someone spoke down to me in a room and everything in me wanted to fire back. My chest got tight and puffed out. My ego was lit up. I felt completely disrespected. The old version of me would’ve gone nuclear on that dude. But I walked outside, sat in my car, and started doing breath work. I let that wave of emotion pass and I chose my self respect over the temporary relief of reacting terribly.
Because self respect isn’t emotional… It’s structural.
Feelings change by the hour. Self respect builds your future…
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There are going to be days you feel lonely enough to text someone that you have no business texting. Days you feel angry enough to say something you can’t take back. Days you feel insecure enough to accept treatment that is way beneath you.
Your feelings will try to make a case. They will present evidence and they will sound very passionate and convincing.
But self respect asks you one question: “Is this aligned with who I am becoming?”
That question has saved me more times than I can count.
Self respect is blocking the number even when you miss the persons voice.
Self respect is leaving the room instead of winning the argument.
Self respect is keeping your word to yourself.
It’s not cold… It’s not pride... It’s strength.
If you are building a new life, healing from trauma, or trying to walk upright after years of chaos, you can’t let feelings outrank your standards. Feelings are like weather... it changes all the time. Self respect is foundation.
So here is the real question…
Where in your life are your feelings louder than your self respect right now?
Jeff
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