Nobody’s thinking about you… they’re too busy thinking about themselves!
That sounds kinda harsh until you really sit with it. Most of the pressure we carry is imagined. The fear of being judged. The fear of saying the wrong thing. The fear of looking foolish for trying. We build whole ass prisons in our heads out of assumptions that were never checked.
I used to move like everyone was watching me. Every mistake felt public. Every mess up felt permanent. I thought people were keeping score. I thought one bad decision defined who I was. That belief kept me quiet when I should have spoken up. It kept me small when I should have stepped forward. It kept me stuck longer than it should’ve.
Most of us learn this late… everyone else is busy replaying their own failures, worrying about their own image, and trying to hold their own lives together. They’re not tracking your progress. They’re not dissecting your every move. They’re not waiting for you to fail. They’re just trying to survive their own mess.
When I finally understood that… something broke loose inside me. I stopped asking for permission. I stopped waiting until I felt ready. I stopped trying to manage other people’s opinions. I started doing the work in front of me. I started saying yes to the things that scared me and no to the things that drained me. Not because I felt fearless, but because I realized fear was never going to leave first.
Most people aren’t judging you. They’re distracted. They’re tired. They’re wrapped up in their own insecurities just like you. The voice telling you to stay hidden is not wisdom. It’s fear pretending to be protection.
So go do your damn thing!!
Write the post…
Start the project…
Make the call…
Take the step!!
News Flash!!
You don’t need universal approval to move forward. You don’t need to be perfect to begin. You don’t need everyone to understand you. You only need to be honest about what’s calling you forward and brave enough to answer it.
Nobody’s thinking about you the way you think they are. That realization is not depressing at all... It’s so freeing.
Use it.
Live loud. Let fear stay quiet and go do your damn thing!!
Jeff
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